Unlocking an Intimate Marriage

A Small Group Discussion Guide for Married Couples

by Dr Michael Sytsma & Shaunti Feldhahn


Are you looking to build a stronger, closer, more intimate marriage? This fast-moving, carefully-designed small group study for couples and churches—led by a renowned therapist and a social researcher—will help you get there.

Through eight sessions, you will grow in community and apply what you are learning at home. Part One is four sessions on many aspects of intimacy (emotional, spiritual, physical…). Part Two is four sessions gently addressing common issues around physical intimacy—a vital topic that most marriage studies barely address. (Couples can, if they prefer, go through Part Two on their own rather than in the group).

Please join us! Because learning and communicating well on these topics will unlock intimacy in your marriage for a lifetime.

How it works:

  • Each small-group discussion is eye-opening and practical, but does not veer into territory private to each couple. You can participate and learn comfortably, knowing you can discuss those issues personally at home.
  • We strongly recommend that you purchase and use the workbook. A simple, free discussion resource is also available on this platform.
  • The study draws heavily from both science and scripture, but an optional “Deeper into the Word” Bible study component is also included in the workbook.
  • As this course is led by a renowned therapist with a specialty in marriage and sex therapy (Dr. Michael Sytsma), and by a respected social researcher (Shaunti Feldhahn), this material is trustworthy, accurate, and based on extensive research and clinical experience.

Covers and sample pages from the book.


Michael Sytsma, PhD

Michael Sytsma, PhD, is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist, Ordained Minister, professor, and national speaker. He has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and is the founder of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. He is a professor at 5 different seminaries and graduate schools and regular trainer at professional conferences. He is co-author of Secrets of Sex & Marriage, 8 Surprises that Make all the Difference, with Shaunti Feldhahn and contributor to several other works.

Find out more about Dr. Sytsma and his ministry at IntimateMarriage.org

Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti Feldhahn is a social researcher and best-selling author who investigates the little things that make a big difference in life and relationships. Her books, such as For Women Only and For Men Only, have sold more than three million copies in 26 languages. With a graduate degree from Harvard University, she was an analyst on Wall Street and today applies

her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths that help people thrive. Shaunti (often with her husband, Jeff ) speaks at dozens of events a year around the world.

Find out more about Shaunti at Shaunti.com or SurprisingHope.com.

Formats and Purchasing

Looking to purchase a copy? Unlocking an Intimate Marriage is available wherever books are sold in paperback and in eBook format on Kindle.